Monday, March 21, 2011

A Bashing Good Time

Ok resentful reader: I am sorry I am not your "type", and touched on your inner feelings. I am although glad I brought these feelings out of you. It shows that my words have brought up your own insecurities and failed relationship fears. I am just one guy. I do not represent all men. I do, in fact have great knowledge when it comes to certain relationship issues/and/or dating. Knowledge comes from skills acquired through experience or education. I assume you have not read from the beginning or even know if I am writing in past or present tense. I could be happily married, and just asked to write due to my experiences and studies in this field. If you have noticed, I have always called myself "average". I am not perfect in any way what-so-ever, but due to my looks and sense of humor have been blessed with the ability to date/experience things many would never know. If you had this gift, and were happy with your choices in life, wouldn't you also want to do it? For some happiness is married with children, white picket fences, and going out to Denny's for dinner once a month. I have the ability to go wherever I wish, with a beautiful woman, whenever I want. Is that cocky? Not at all. I have worked hard to live this lifestyle, and it creates a jealousy factor with many. Sorry you have not received what you wanted out of life. We all choose the pathways of our lives and my road has been paved with many interesting,funny,sexy,and at times twisted experiences. I would assume you (just my professional guess) you have recently had a failed relationship, you love to read fantasy stories (i.e. Twilight), enjoy some crime/detective movies, love romantic songs, think you'll never find someone whom can be everything you want(all men are evil dicks), and you have a huge interest in being heard. You have a touch of sadness and you feel you are never listened to, so you are somewhat jealous of what happiness many others hold. Some of what you have written has shown me you can not do half the things I have done, it shows your own insecurities and inabilities. This is the carnal part of our humanity that always desires posessions of others. I am not the one whom hurt you. You will, in time, find someone whom will accept you for who you are, but you will need to release the anger inside yourself. I love to see you are able to express those feelings here. It is a big step in your healing process.

One more thing you touched upon was the word "WISDOM".

Wisdom is a deep understanding and realizing of people, things, events or situations, resulting in the ability to choose or act to consistently produce the optimum results with a minimum of time and energy. It is the ability to optimally (effectively and efficiently) apply perceptions and knowledge and so produce the desired results. Wisdom is also the comprehension of what is true or right coupled with optimum judgment as to action. Synonyms include: sagacity, discernment, or insight. Wisdom often requires control of one's emotional reactions (the "passions") so that one's principles, reason and knowledge prevail to determine one's actions. I never stated I "know all", but I do believe I do have some wisdom when it comes to certain issues. (but you can be the judge)

I have read your words over and over (with a slight smile) and I keep going back to "what hurt you"? "What made you speak up"? I honestly don't know, but your words seem a little bitter and I feel sorry, but you also seem a little rejected. Here are a few things I came up with:

Reasons to bash someone:
Mistaken Identity
Existing Rivalry
Mob Mentality
Moral Differences
Religious Differences
Righting a Wrong
Need for Attention
Need for a Boost of Self Confidence
Deflecting Attention/Creating a Diversion
Misguided Enthusiasm
Hurt Feelings
Two Wrongs...
Bad Day
Ease of Doing So Behind These Anonymous Masks
Bad Seafood
Crap & Giggles

None of which are positive feelings. I am glad you have written though. It has given me inspiration to write again. I hope by voicing your opinion it has given you some peace. I would love for you to write up privately and perhaps we could enter your writings into our blog for one time. Or if you need references on a good counselor in your area, I could ask a few colleagues in this field.
After thinking things through, your words also touched upon this:
Jealousy is a secondary emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. Jealousy often consists of a combination of presenting emotions such as anger, sadness, and disgust. It is not to be confused with envy.

I, in no way, want to hurt your feelings, but my way of writing is generally not sugar-coated, and true to the point. I have stated in order for us to move forward, we need to understand each other. We are all in search of what's "perfect" for us, and who wouldn't want help and a little more understanding to find "the one"?
The Man

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