Monday, November 28, 2011

Hot Mama

Alright, I've been a Love Bite's groupie for quite awhile now and have always looked forward to new Love Bite's blog entries. I have always wanted you guys to have a single mom's perspective on the whole dating/relationship thing so maybe I can offer that? I've had an awful lot of dating and relationship experience these last few years, I still believe in "the one" and I'm still looking or waiting... So below is a bit I wrote to explain where I'm coming from.

I was single for about 2 1/2 years. No boyfriends, nothing. I guess after awhile ago, I forgot how great it was having someone around and a part of my life. Then one day I'd had enough. I didn't have any guy friends that I was interested in, I was a stay at home mom and I turned to internet dating sites. I met one guy and knew from that start it wasn't right. We never spoke again. I got a couple emails from another guy and we moved quickly to talking on the phone, two days later we met. He wasn't the most attractive guy, but we had a good time and the conversation was great. So at the end of the date we kissed and it was amazing... we saw each other every couple days for the next three months, but there was the problem, I have kids and they are a huge part of my world. He thought that he was supposed to be top priority.

He wasn't right for me, and some part of me knew that from the beginning. I never had the urge for him to meet my kids even as we got closer and more intimate. I didn't see a future in it, and I don't believe he saw himself as being a part of my kid's lives. Though I do know he was in love with me, it was a selfish love where he wanted me all to himself and when I started noticing that I felt suffocated. He was 'in love' with me but not loving me as a person, a mother. I also worked full time and had other relationships that were important to me. Time apart is important, but it is a balancing act of the right amount of time. I ended the relationship because of how he reacted to the time apart and me explaining how I felt.

It was ironic, the night I ended it was a day before Valentine's day. I had gotten a babysitter for the night because everyone was busy Valentine's night. He came over all depressed because we hadn't seen each other in nine days, though we had talked twice a day and texted (depressed, seriously????) I thought it was ridiculous, we talked about it and I figured we could still have a good night. I'd already paid my babysitter! So he was still all upset about it and decided to leave, I decided to use my favorite cliche: "It's not you, it's me," and then I explained how I just wasn't ready for that kind of relationship (ya, the crazy kind where a guy is obsessed and calls/texts 20 times a day!) He left, and I called up some friends to go out. And that night starts the next chapter..

Hot Mama - 2nd Love Bites Guest Writer

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Letting Go

It's time to let go. It's time for your dreams to take over again without realizing that you’re just living in a dream of your love. I once heard, “Just let it be", and yes, it’s the best you can do. It is impossible to change what's written for us, and impossible to change how we feel about someone when we love.

I can only move forward and pray that the happiness I see, is somewhere near waiting for me. Meanwhile, I just live and enjoy the happy moments that life gives me every day. Always making tough decisions and not looking back, until the time comes for when real “love” arrives, I will keep on going my way, and only hope, you are there at the end of the road. You, my real “love”...

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Saturday, November 26, 2011

Don't Forget Me

Is it possible to forget someone or something you love so much? I wish it was. Although I believe that some people may be able to, it is really hard. I wish I would never feel forgotten, be forgotten, and of course, I wish I would never make anybody feel that way either.

During our busy lives we tend to forget that just a simple "Hi" can make a difference in somebody else’s world/life. And even though I rather forget right now, I'm not strong enough to do so. But I know that eventually it does happen and we’re all able to get our peace of mind.

If I ever made anybody feel forgotten, or hurt anybody, I'm sorry. But at the same time, here I am again, at your reach.
If you love me enough, or I love you enough, there will be no need for explanations; it will be just a simple "Hi" again.

Let's make sure we don't forget the love or friendship there once was. Forgetting the past and moving forward always helps to have a clear mind and being able to start over.

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Fly Away Love

My heart has been broken, but my spirit persists. It has told me that even a broken heart can fly still. So in my sorrow, I will open the cage and set it free again. Go ahead, “fly”. While flying you'll learn to heal again. Don't be afraid to show your immense love, don't shy from it either. Let the world see the scars, for them to realize your vulnerability. But let them see, as well, how strong it becomes when healed, and how big it gets.

Life and the universe will set up your destiny; they know he is somewhere, waiting for you. They also know, only a flying heart will be able to find him. Look up and be grateful, for every day, for every smile, and for always being able to love. Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire; if you did, you wouldn’t have anything to look forward to.

Be thankful when you don’t know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn and discover new things, new feelings. Be thankful for the difficult times; during those times is when our hearts grow stronger. Be very grateful for the limitations because they give us the opportunities to improve ourselves. Be grateful for the next breath you take; for it gives you life. Always remember that only a fully healed heart will be open and ready for when that moment of “love” comes. Until then, just fly...

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Friday, November 25, 2011

Remember Me

When you are down, and can't see what's ahead of you, always remember what you have accomplished. Never let your dreams down just because you can't see them clear at this moment. I've always managed to follow my dreams, the ones deep in my heart, always trying to answer my call. Calls that help me visualize my better future. The future full of happy moments, those moments that will make me laugh as I look back and realize that these cloudy days in my life are just the experiences that I need to have for that better future. Experiences that will stop me from making the same mistakes, which I’ve made plenty of times in the past, experiences that, will make me wiser, as I go along the way.

Once again life has shown me, and reassured me of what I like to do in life. I always knew that I wanted to be a happy person, be loved, be remembered, be giving, because what makes me happy in life is to make a difference in other people’s lives. Today I have done that as a human being. I've learned that I have made a huge difference in the life of a person that I love dearly, and even though it was a bittersweet moment at one point, nothing fills my heart more that knowing that.

Hearing someone tell you that your presence and your experiences have changed them for the best is a great feeling, but knowing it, is immense. A feeling I would take, to make sure and remind myself that I am in the right direction. All I hope is that by the end of my life, the lives I was able to touch will remember me with a smile in their face. And I hope that every person that has made a difference in my life knows that I appreciate them greatly..

Love unconditionally and smile at the world as if you do, you will get rewarded with the same feeling in return but within yourself.

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Lost

The thought of the person of my dreams made me enter into a trance of passion and love that once in it, my mind, body and soul didn’t want to leave. Wanting more and more each time and craving for the love and caring that he brought, was like getting lost in a dream, in a fairytale. The smell of his skin lingering on mine, making me long for the embrace and warmth of this his body pressing hard against mine.

Thinking and thinking I noticed that I was losing control and losing myself for someone that didn’t exist. That wasn’t real since this was all a dream that once awaken from it, it was all going to be gone. Leaving me on my own, realizing that “me” is all I need..

Don’t ever get caught up to the point of losing yourself for someone even if it might seem right at the moment, because when losing yourself, you’re losing everything and the main reason that someone loved you in the first place.

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Thursday, November 24, 2011

I am Grateful

“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” - Marcel Proust

A couple days ago I had drinks with a few amazing, smart and witty new acquaintances. How I found myself sitting in their company was a result of technology and social media, but ultimately it came back to my youth and the naive and rebellious wild child I once was.

I am thankful for the mistakes of my youth, for the random chance encounters, the impulsive decisions and drama fueled by passion and rage. I still like to think of myself as this bad ass chick, but in reality I'm just an ordinary gal leading an extraordinary life.

I am thankful for my early twenties when I seriously thought I had life figured out and I wasn't afraid to push boundaries. I was still innocent and naive in both life and love. I believed in fairytales stories and I thought I had found my prince.

I am grateful for the fearless girl who started a blog to bitch about life and love. Because at the time it seemed like the most logical next step.

I am thankful for the person I once was who found comfort and closure by writing. That girl was me, is me, but she does not define me. Even though her actions seem to.

I will always be a passionate person, but I will never be the person who once threw clothes out the window and broke china because I saw it done on TV.

But, there I was talking about my past, about the childish moments of my youth and I wondered if I was being judged for my words of today or my actions of yesterday.

Happy Thanksgiving y'all!!

With Love,
Kate

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Addicted to Love

I once met a broken soul or what I thought was a broken soul, and by trying to fix it, mine got broken too. I met a broken heart, and then mine got broken again. I realized what I knew all along. We are unbreakable and well, Love is an addiction, and unless the addicted soul is asking you for help, there's nothing we can do to fix it.

I wish broken souls would understand that happiness comes and goes. Happiness is a beautiful state of mind in which you can only enjoy if you are happy with yourself. I still hope broken souls would find their way to happiness, and realize that by working hard towards it, can make you happy as well. I regret having my heart and soul broken again and again, but I would never regret the happy state of mind I was in, on those moments when I didn't know the difference and felt free.

There’s only so much you can do when trying to fix something and so much you can take while doing it. All I know is that love is a give and take thing in which we may lose and may win but always learn from.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Reflections

While searching for love I found a beautiful person. This person was pretty/handsome, smart, accomplished, sweet, and with a great heart. This person taught me that love is pure and that it can be found in so many ways. This person also taught me that living with it is much better than living without it. That life is so much easier when you have Love around you and in yourself.
This person told me not to give up, and if I fall to just get back up and keep on going, even though it might hurt sometimes, it is alright.

Never imagined at this stage of my life that I would feel this way about love. That I would finally know what it means to love and to be in love, like I've never been before. Maybe I'm just letting my heart speak for myself, but this person told me that our brains may not be able to comprehend this level of emotions that we can experience so deeply in ourselves.
I wish love would be the dictator of our lives, but then again, I'm just wishing. I thank this beautiful person for the teachings that I have learned, I give thanks with my own life because thanks to love, I've discovered that this person was me all along and thanks to love I found myself..

Always have faith and confidence in yourself, and believe that you’re the only one strong enough to overcome anything and everything that may occur in your life.

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Sunday, November 20, 2011

Replacements

I've been writing less and less on here by choice. This blog will never be what it once was. I don't think I could handle another broken heart or unnecessary drama. I am not the same person anymore and part of that is as a result of Love Bites.

I respect my private life now and want to keep as much as possible hidden from the public arena. But, by doing so I am left with very little material to write about. I hope one day soon I will be in a place where I once again feel comfortable exposing my most intimate thoughts for anyone and everyone to read.

If it were just anonymous strangers peeking into my life I would be completely fine, but unfortunately I made the mistake in the beginning to let my friends and colleagues in on my double life. I regret doing this now, because there is no longer a clear divide between the two lives.

I am forever thankful for the lessons I have learned and the people I have met since this journey began. There are many more chapters to be written and I hope you will continue to check in on our humble blog. While we can't guarantee we will write every day or even every week, we will try our best to write at least a few times a month if not more.

But, if you need a daily dose of Love Bites, check out our Facebook page and our Twitter account @ LoveBitesMF. We typically update on both daily.

We wish all of you a Happy Thanksgiving and thank you for continuing to include us in your lives.

No promise on what will happen after this.

With Love,
Kate

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Monday, November 7, 2011

Why Do Exes Come Back Around?

It's been quite some time since my last entry in the blog, but recently we asked for some ideas. Some were interested in "Why do ex's come back around?” one I heard a while back "friends to lovers & back to friends (will it ever work)" and one I tried a few times "long distance relationships"

I may not have the answers you're looking for, but we all have a different ways of dealing with these issues. Remember, I’m a guy and that my way of thinking differs from most women’s thoughts on these experiences, but that's why I'm here. The major issues are due to the fact Women and Men have totally different thought processes. I, at times even stand alone from most of them as well. I am brutally honest, and will at times say things that most think, but are too chicken shit to say.

First of all, you may have stumbled upon this page by accident or heard about it by friends, but the one thing is that you're here, and something we've said, you related to. We're glad you're here and hopefully we can all figure out some answers you've been looking for. For all the new readers, I’m a 30 something bachelor, some say cute, who was engaged but things just didn’t seem to work out, and have been on the hunt for Mrs. Right for the last three years. I have been on hundreds of dates, some good, some bad, but have learned more than most of you will in a lifetime. It just seems the dating world, and people have changed so much. Everyone wants the "real deal" but expect it to be handed to them. I work my ass off to find Mrs. right. I change where I shop, the places I eat, and work the Internet like a madman! If you think, "good things come to those who wait", best of luck to you and your forever single life. No one is just going to knock on your door and say, "I know you've been waiting, and you've been good, so let me make your dreams come true". So many think guys suck! And say, " show me one who is different than all the rest".... Well, you're already tainted! You're going into it looking for a guy to prove you wrong... you're already judging us on your past relationships, and you hold a bit of resentment before it starts. Why the hell do guys have to prove anything to you????? Why don't you prove us YOU'RE DIFFERENT?? Truth: we don't really give a fuck!! If we like you, it doesn’t matter what happened in our past. Every relationship is different, and offers a little something new each time. Don’t let the scars of your past carry over. It’s already hard enough for us guys... We have to have a great job, a decent car, we can't live at home (like most of you do), and so much more. Sure some of us know these factors and put on an act (for a little while), but isn’t that what you wanted with all that pressure??? Come on!! Go into things with a clear head, and hope for the best. If nothing comes out of it, you'll at least learn a little more about yourself. Don't set "rules”; this will limit the already tough job of finding your true happiness.

I have been dating for about 3 years now and have entered every relationship clear-minded and open to the thoughts "whatever happens happens". I don’t care what you drive, what clothes you wear, what job you have, or any of the factors that are "deal-breakers" for most superficial bitches. Opps, I said it.... suck it up buttercup! Am I a poor guy? Nope! But guess what? I can see those women a mile away, and I know exactly what it takes to score with you. I can read your every move, and constantly judging your body language, I can tell within the first 30 min if you're taking me back to your place, if this is relationship material, or just a waste of time. I’m rambling because I just laugh at so many with their "pity me" stories and it's really their own close-minded thoughts that keep them single! Well, back to the reader’s questions: "Why do ex's come back around?" There are plenty of factors why we do this. It’s as simple as this: Some come back because they realize leaving was a mistake. Others come back because they think it's easy to get back with some one old than to start fresh with some one new. Sure there are many other reasons/excuses but its a simple concept... We all like the comfort of the known. We know your issues, as do you know ours, we had a past, and think whatever separated us is not that big of a deal to leave you forever. Just make sure you hear them out on their reasoning, and question them upon it as well.

Now here goes a tricky one "can friends become lovers, then part as friends again"? This all depends on your mentality. Can you handle it? Everyone’s mindset is different, and for one, someone cares more than the other. 90% of the time it's the guy who wants to break this type of relationship off, and sad to say, he cares less. Sure there's always exceptions, but deep down, someone will be hurt and things rarely return to normalcy again. Eventually the two of you part, and as time goes on, eventually stop talking all together.

Here's one I wrote about in the past: Long distance relationships, can they work? Of coarse then can for some, but the truth of the matter is that we all want our loved ones close to us. I would say that these types of relationships last longer when you meet someone, and they need to transfer for work, or another situation. The relationships that start from long distance are tougher, and eventually someone needs to move closer to maintain a relationship. With both of these, TRUST & COMMUNICATION is the key! So many solders have amazing women waiting for them. So sure, it could work, but just know what you can handle before entering.

So to break it down.... You need to be free of the past before entering the future. Give everyone a chance, and your results will be different. Try new things, and get new results. Break down your walls, and build bridges, know your self worth! Never lower your standards for anyone. When you say you are going to break the chains that bind you and happiness will find you, remember the words of Thoreau "Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.
The Man

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