Wednesday, May 25, 2011

How To Lose a Guy in 10 Days

When we open ourselves up to the idea of love, the idea of monogamy, the idea that social tells us is the only way to be it's next to impossible to live up to the expectations without giving away a portion of our soul and independence along the way.
We rush into new friendships and relationships with blinders on. We set ourselves up for a painful fall from grace that in some cases causes us to act out of character and lose sight of what is real and what was made up in a children's book or a romantic comedy. The only different is that in the movies we think the woman trying her best not to lose a guy is funny and cute instead of mentally unstable and of course at the end of the night time story they all live happily ever after.
In just a matter of hours or days we think we have found that special someone that completes us. We think the feeling is mutual and we allow our emotions to get the best of us. We become paranoid and jealous when there is nothing to worry about. We start to act more like a stalker than a lover. We pick fights to get attention. Once the calls stop we panic even more. We realize we fucked up big time. Sure it could have been great, it would have been a blast, but in the end our own insecurities and trust issues got the best of us.
Either we can start a war of words much to do about nothing or we can move on to greener pastures. Make peace with the past, especially one we don't believe was ever properly put to bed. Apologize for your errors in judgement, make amends, but also realize that it is very possible the receiver of your words may no longer care to hear anything. You may never understand why things ended as they did, but does it really matter as long as you are happy within.
In time you never know, maybe love will find it's way back into an opened heart.

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