After some of you read my last blog, you may have thought "what an idiot", but I need to add some more details.
She NEVER mentioned this fact to me. When we met, she told me she was happy I was that cute (her words), She said I looked better in person, Loved my eyes, and more! Plus here were a few other "mixed signals" : Introduces me to her mom, showed me where she lives, offered a massage (just a regular one..not the "happy-ending" kind), told me I have to meet her friends, told her friends about me, when she fell asleep, it was in my lap, fed me a few times while we ate, bought me a shirt, and some more I cant think of right now. Does this sound like a "hang out" buddy to you? or was she truly interested? I have no idea! Why all these mixed signals? or do I want a relationship so badly I created this to be more than what it was? I do have tons of female friends, but usually these things are never done. There is a line that is never crossed, and usually stated form the beginning. I think the situation is extremely funny, but was I getting mixed signals?
Let’s be honest: Dating is full of uncertainty. In fact, that’s what makes it exciting (occasionally disappointing). It’s the waiting to see if someone will call—or fall for you, for that matter. Sometimes, though, the signals can get a little too confusing. And, that situation can be worse than a brush-off, since you’re not sure whether to hang on or cut bait. I guess I will never figure out the woman's mind!
The Man
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Dead End
My life should be made into a book! Ohh, it has somewhat become one. lol
Well, there's never a dull moment with me. I have been talking to someone for about two weeks now.(Met her on a dating site) We "talked" about three weeks prior to exchanging numbers. I knew she was recently divorced and didn't want any commitments. We had great conversations and to add to it she was very beautiful. From the start, she said "these dating sites are a joke." "I would NEVER meet anyone from here." So as our talks continue, we realize we have so much in common so there was only one thing to do...MEET.
It was a daytime meet, in a public place (the mall), I did the girly thing and went shopping (or I walked with her as she shopped). Conversation was ever better in person. As time passed, we both got hungry, so I suggested we have dinner. Usually it's only a "meet and greet" , but the comfort level was high, so the date went on. After finishing eating we realized we were there for 3 hours! Time passed effortlessly. She then said she didn't want this night to end. I was somewhat shocked, but was right there with her. We then went to a sports-bar and stayed there much longer. We both had things to do the next day, so we parted ways. The texts were flowing as we both headed our separate ways.
From that day forth, we did the "good morning's", "how's your day", "what's for lunch", and much more. There wasn't a day that passed without talking every couple hours. The following weekend, we played tennis, had brunch, and even a few dinners. she then asked "hey, don't you like to cook? can we just have dinner at your place, and maybe a movie?" I didn't have to think twice! "YUP, sounds like a plan". I then did what every bachelor does when someone is coming to your house....... I went nuts cleaning!! I even bought a new vaccum.LOL. I bought all the new air-fresheners, lit some candles, set the dimmers a little lower, and freaked out!! she was coming over here! My place was a mess (well, not really) but I wanted to impress.
Dinner was flawless, candles were just right, and everything was falling in place. I popped the movie in and noticed the body language was a little different (sign 1). I didn't think too much about it until I looked again, and BAM!..she was asleep.(sign 2) No holding hands, no kisses ever exchanged, and when there was physical contact, it was quickly corrected (sign 3). Thse signs kept adding up, but I didn't think twice..We went out several times,she was recently divorced....no need to rush anything.
The following few days she wanted to see me again so we hung out. Here's where I picked up on a big one...She was telling a cute story and all of a sudden she asked "what are you thinking?" I wanted to be honest, so I told her "at that moment I wanted to give you a kiss (not a deep, passionate one, a pop-kiss) She then looked around and said "what! here?" I figured because we were eating at a public place, she didn't want to be embarrassed (public display of affection). Again I should have thought something was up, but nope.
Today I had hit my limit of small-talk and was curious as to what I was seeing/hearing. I told her "recently I saw you using the word "friend" when we talked", and even when you texted a few times, you mentioned "I am glad to have a (friend) like you". So am I a "friend" or something more? She replies "well, you havent hit the friend level just yet, but you're pretty close". WTF? I thought to myself.....she then tells me I usually don't consider someone a "friend" for a while, but you're different". Ok, I'm getting really confused at this point. She then goes on to tell me she is glad we met, and it's tough to find a guy who only wants to "hang out" and not try to get laid. She goes on to say how comfortable I have made her feel to have a guy who only wants to chill, and expects nothing in return. OK AT THIS POINT I WAS LOST!! DID SHE THINK I WAS GAY OR SOMETHING??? nope! She then goes on and asked "why? did you want more?" Hell yea, I want a girlfriend, or at least know I'm working towards that point. She then askes "why would you ever think that?" ahahha!! well..... we did meet on a DATING SITE,not a HANG OUT site. She then responds "didn't you see I only wanted to hang out?" Nope! I never looked, and as things were progressing, I thought it was in natural order for someone who wanted to take things slow. Well......what it comes down to is that I cancelled a few REAL DATES, to meet and HANG OUT with someone who never wanted a relationship to begin with. HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAH!!! boy do I feel dumb! I guess when I/some people want something so badly the overlook certain things, but looking back all the signs were there!
The Man
Well, there's never a dull moment with me. I have been talking to someone for about two weeks now.(Met her on a dating site) We "talked" about three weeks prior to exchanging numbers. I knew she was recently divorced and didn't want any commitments. We had great conversations and to add to it she was very beautiful. From the start, she said "these dating sites are a joke." "I would NEVER meet anyone from here." So as our talks continue, we realize we have so much in common so there was only one thing to do...MEET.
It was a daytime meet, in a public place (the mall), I did the girly thing and went shopping (or I walked with her as she shopped). Conversation was ever better in person. As time passed, we both got hungry, so I suggested we have dinner. Usually it's only a "meet and greet" , but the comfort level was high, so the date went on. After finishing eating we realized we were there for 3 hours! Time passed effortlessly. She then said she didn't want this night to end. I was somewhat shocked, but was right there with her. We then went to a sports-bar and stayed there much longer. We both had things to do the next day, so we parted ways. The texts were flowing as we both headed our separate ways.
From that day forth, we did the "good morning's", "how's your day", "what's for lunch", and much more. There wasn't a day that passed without talking every couple hours. The following weekend, we played tennis, had brunch, and even a few dinners. she then asked "hey, don't you like to cook? can we just have dinner at your place, and maybe a movie?" I didn't have to think twice! "YUP, sounds like a plan". I then did what every bachelor does when someone is coming to your house....... I went nuts cleaning!! I even bought a new vaccum.LOL. I bought all the new air-fresheners, lit some candles, set the dimmers a little lower, and freaked out!! she was coming over here! My place was a mess (well, not really) but I wanted to impress.
Dinner was flawless, candles were just right, and everything was falling in place. I popped the movie in and noticed the body language was a little different (sign 1). I didn't think too much about it until I looked again, and BAM!..she was asleep.(sign 2) No holding hands, no kisses ever exchanged, and when there was physical contact, it was quickly corrected (sign 3). Thse signs kept adding up, but I didn't think twice..We went out several times,she was recently divorced....no need to rush anything.
The following few days she wanted to see me again so we hung out. Here's where I picked up on a big one...She was telling a cute story and all of a sudden she asked "what are you thinking?" I wanted to be honest, so I told her "at that moment I wanted to give you a kiss (not a deep, passionate one, a pop-kiss) She then looked around and said "what! here?" I figured because we were eating at a public place, she didn't want to be embarrassed (public display of affection). Again I should have thought something was up, but nope.
Today I had hit my limit of small-talk and was curious as to what I was seeing/hearing. I told her "recently I saw you using the word "friend" when we talked", and even when you texted a few times, you mentioned "I am glad to have a (friend) like you". So am I a "friend" or something more? She replies "well, you havent hit the friend level just yet, but you're pretty close". WTF? I thought to myself.....she then tells me I usually don't consider someone a "friend" for a while, but you're different". Ok, I'm getting really confused at this point. She then goes on to tell me she is glad we met, and it's tough to find a guy who only wants to "hang out" and not try to get laid. She goes on to say how comfortable I have made her feel to have a guy who only wants to chill, and expects nothing in return. OK AT THIS POINT I WAS LOST!! DID SHE THINK I WAS GAY OR SOMETHING??? nope! She then goes on and asked "why? did you want more?" Hell yea, I want a girlfriend, or at least know I'm working towards that point. She then askes "why would you ever think that?" ahahha!! well..... we did meet on a DATING SITE,not a HANG OUT site. She then responds "didn't you see I only wanted to hang out?" Nope! I never looked, and as things were progressing, I thought it was in natural order for someone who wanted to take things slow. Well......what it comes down to is that I cancelled a few REAL DATES, to meet and HANG OUT with someone who never wanted a relationship to begin with. HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAH!!! boy do I feel dumb! I guess when I/some people want something so badly the overlook certain things, but looking back all the signs were there!
The Man
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
The Man Who Cried Love
Having someone say "I love you" is suppose to be a pretty big step in a relationship. But, how do you know it's true love and not just lust masked with firework hopes and dreams?
It seems like so many people feel pressured into the exposing themselves and going out of their comfort zone for a grand ideal that appears closer than it ever really was. A stranger becomes a lover without much thought. The carefree vision of love and happiness keeps you high until one day the hot air balloon comes crashing down to earth.
What was never said is what will remain. Maybe some words are to little, to late, but then if this is true love never existed at all. If you walk away without a fight you never were running towards happiness to begin with.
What were you thinking talking to a stranger? The candy was counterfeit, but it's to late now you eat it all up and your stomach is rumbling in pain.
There was no cake, no card, no flowers just an empty room where love once lived.
Happy belated birthday to me. Dirty 30 here I come.
Kate
It seems like so many people feel pressured into the exposing themselves and going out of their comfort zone for a grand ideal that appears closer than it ever really was. A stranger becomes a lover without much thought. The carefree vision of love and happiness keeps you high until one day the hot air balloon comes crashing down to earth.
What was never said is what will remain. Maybe some words are to little, to late, but then if this is true love never existed at all. If you walk away without a fight you never were running towards happiness to begin with.
What were you thinking talking to a stranger? The candy was counterfeit, but it's to late now you eat it all up and your stomach is rumbling in pain.
There was no cake, no card, no flowers just an empty room where love once lived.
Happy belated birthday to me. Dirty 30 here I come.
Kate
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Finding True Happiness
"Relationships…There are those that open you up to something new & exotic, those that are old & familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, & those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging & significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself." -Carrie Bradshaw
"Our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we have become." ~unknown
Who are you? Did you become whom you always wanted? Are you where you pictured yourself to be? These and many other questions will come up as the years pass, but have you found your purpose? We often look at what society "thinks" are the correct choices, but often this doesn’t reflect who we are. We are all different, make different choices, and lead our lives in different manners until we find our comfort. Some of us will become doctors, others may become lawyers, some will be construction workers, and yet others will work in fast-food industry. Have you ever wondered why some people work at McDonalds in their late 20's or 30's and seem happy? Is it what they always wanted to be? did they lose motivation?, or have they realized that true happiness isn’t the amount of money you make, the car you drive, or all the materialistic bullshit that so many chase and never achieve. You can spend years trying to keep up with the "Jones" and never find happiness. So many in the world today are seeking True Happiness. I at this point in my journey have never heard anyone express a desire to be unhappy. Have you?
True happiness is such a necessary part of living a fulfilled life yet so few can honestly claim to have found it. Why is that? Why and how could it be that something that is so important and desired in the lives of so many seem to be so difficult to attain? How is it possible that so many who have such a strong desire to attain true happiness have such a difficult time attaining it?
If you ask ANY person on any given day what they most desire in their lives, if broken down and analyzed is a desire to be happy. Each and every day I hear statements such as, “If only I could get that certain job, then I’d be truly happy.” Or “If only I could acquire a certain amount of money, that would be all I need to be happy.” Or “If only I could find just the right mate, then life would be truly fulfilling.” And still another, “If only I could attain a certain level of health, then life would be just perfect.” All different statements, but all pointing in the same direction, and desiring the same end result. Finding True Happiness.
So what is it? Where do we find it...? True Happiness lies within you. Yes YOU too! Not in the effects of the external world, but within each and every person that currently exists or has ever existed in this physical form that is referred to as life. Each and every one of us holds all the answers within us. Make the choice to be happy!! I recently did some reading on this and found a few interesting facts.
* Whatever is going on in your mind is what you are attracting.
* Thought = creation. If these thoughts are attached to powerful emotions (good or bad) that speeds the creation.
* Those who speak most of illness have illness; those who speak most of prosperity have it, etc.
* It’s OK that thoughts don’t manifest into reality immediately (if we saw a picture of an elephant and it instantly appeared, that would be too soon).
* Everything in your life you have attracted. Accept that fact; it’s true.
* You get exactly what you are feeling.
* What you think and what you feel and what actually manifests is always a match — no exception.
* You don’t need to know how the universe is going to rearrange itself.
* How long??? No rules on time; the more aligned you are with positive feelings the quicker things happen.
* Size is nothing to the universe (unlimited abundance if that’s what you wish). We make the rules on size and time.
* If you turn it over to the universe, you will be surprised and dazzled by what is delivered. This is where magic and miracles happen.
* The Hows are the domains of the universe. It always knows the quickest, fastest, most harmonious way between you and your dream.
* Our job is not to worry about the “How”. The “How” will show up out of the commitment and belief in the “what”.
* We are mass energy. Everything is energy. Everything.
* An affirmative thought is 100 times more powerful than a negative one.
Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself. Take the time to find what truly makes you happy. A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
I recently met someone who had everything and lost everything. I asked, "How can you still walk around with a smile"? She replied, "You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation. Happiness is not in having or being—it is in the doing."
I was shocked and stunned, but it gave me something to think about. I know this blog is a little different from what I usually write, but thought it may help to look deep inside us. FIND YOU-FIND HAPPINESS
The Man
"Our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we have become." ~unknown
Who are you? Did you become whom you always wanted? Are you where you pictured yourself to be? These and many other questions will come up as the years pass, but have you found your purpose? We often look at what society "thinks" are the correct choices, but often this doesn’t reflect who we are. We are all different, make different choices, and lead our lives in different manners until we find our comfort. Some of us will become doctors, others may become lawyers, some will be construction workers, and yet others will work in fast-food industry. Have you ever wondered why some people work at McDonalds in their late 20's or 30's and seem happy? Is it what they always wanted to be? did they lose motivation?, or have they realized that true happiness isn’t the amount of money you make, the car you drive, or all the materialistic bullshit that so many chase and never achieve. You can spend years trying to keep up with the "Jones" and never find happiness. So many in the world today are seeking True Happiness. I at this point in my journey have never heard anyone express a desire to be unhappy. Have you?
True happiness is such a necessary part of living a fulfilled life yet so few can honestly claim to have found it. Why is that? Why and how could it be that something that is so important and desired in the lives of so many seem to be so difficult to attain? How is it possible that so many who have such a strong desire to attain true happiness have such a difficult time attaining it?
If you ask ANY person on any given day what they most desire in their lives, if broken down and analyzed is a desire to be happy. Each and every day I hear statements such as, “If only I could get that certain job, then I’d be truly happy.” Or “If only I could acquire a certain amount of money, that would be all I need to be happy.” Or “If only I could find just the right mate, then life would be truly fulfilling.” And still another, “If only I could attain a certain level of health, then life would be just perfect.” All different statements, but all pointing in the same direction, and desiring the same end result. Finding True Happiness.
So what is it? Where do we find it...? True Happiness lies within you. Yes YOU too! Not in the effects of the external world, but within each and every person that currently exists or has ever existed in this physical form that is referred to as life. Each and every one of us holds all the answers within us. Make the choice to be happy!! I recently did some reading on this and found a few interesting facts.
* Whatever is going on in your mind is what you are attracting.
* Thought = creation. If these thoughts are attached to powerful emotions (good or bad) that speeds the creation.
* Those who speak most of illness have illness; those who speak most of prosperity have it, etc.
* It’s OK that thoughts don’t manifest into reality immediately (if we saw a picture of an elephant and it instantly appeared, that would be too soon).
* Everything in your life you have attracted. Accept that fact; it’s true.
* You get exactly what you are feeling.
* What you think and what you feel and what actually manifests is always a match — no exception.
* You don’t need to know how the universe is going to rearrange itself.
* How long??? No rules on time; the more aligned you are with positive feelings the quicker things happen.
* Size is nothing to the universe (unlimited abundance if that’s what you wish). We make the rules on size and time.
* If you turn it over to the universe, you will be surprised and dazzled by what is delivered. This is where magic and miracles happen.
* The Hows are the domains of the universe. It always knows the quickest, fastest, most harmonious way between you and your dream.
* Our job is not to worry about the “How”. The “How” will show up out of the commitment and belief in the “what”.
* We are mass energy. Everything is energy. Everything.
* An affirmative thought is 100 times more powerful than a negative one.
Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself. Take the time to find what truly makes you happy. A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
I recently met someone who had everything and lost everything. I asked, "How can you still walk around with a smile"? She replied, "You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation. Happiness is not in having or being—it is in the doing."
I was shocked and stunned, but it gave me something to think about. I know this blog is a little different from what I usually write, but thought it may help to look deep inside us. FIND YOU-FIND HAPPINESS
The Man
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Go Fish
There will always be more fish in the sea. More drama and responsibilities put on your already full plate. There will be days when you dread waking up and confronting the day because you know it's not sunny in Philadelphia anymore. But, you continue to push on and go about the motions just let everyone else. You hold out hope that things will change, but as the days turn into weeks and months with little sign of progress the sky starts to look more black than blue.
Good luck in your search for love. What you think you're searching for may not be what you wanted after all. As the years go by your expectations and understanding of the opposite sex will probably change. Eventually you will come to realize that nobody can be molded into the person we wish they would be. Someday will never come.
You can believe in love, but you must also believe that true love and happiness can not be ordered in a magazine or on a computer. There is nothing random about anything we do. There is a reason for everything that ultimately occurs even if you don't know why at that moment in time.
Everyday is filled with the same mystery bag of emotions and issues. We dream of a life free of worries. A life filled only with champagne wishes and caviar dreams. But, Robin Leach isn't coming around anytime soon and the flock of eligible winners is trimming down. It's not so fun after all feeling like the only one left in the game.
Kate
Good luck in your search for love. What you think you're searching for may not be what you wanted after all. As the years go by your expectations and understanding of the opposite sex will probably change. Eventually you will come to realize that nobody can be molded into the person we wish they would be. Someday will never come.
You can believe in love, but you must also believe that true love and happiness can not be ordered in a magazine or on a computer. There is nothing random about anything we do. There is a reason for everything that ultimately occurs even if you don't know why at that moment in time.
Everyday is filled with the same mystery bag of emotions and issues. We dream of a life free of worries. A life filled only with champagne wishes and caviar dreams. But, Robin Leach isn't coming around anytime soon and the flock of eligible winners is trimming down. It's not so fun after all feeling like the only one left in the game.
Kate
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Innocent Until Proven Guilty
Over the last few days there has been talks about: if I was "dating material", why I haven’t settled down, and that I'm "just fun". Normally I wouldn't spend the time answering questions from a stranger, but I am sure she's not alone on this. I have talked about "what guys/I want" but I have never really focused on my own issues. I thought I may have, but I am guessing some of you may think, "who is he to talk all that shit about women...if he were so "perfect" wouldn't he be with someone?" and many more questions. Well, here goes my attempt to explain myself a little.
There are many reasons I never got into this.... I have tried to remain somewhat anonymous; therefore some details have been left out. Let me first talk about my past. In my early 20's I was in a committed relationship that went sour after 4 yrs. Did I love her? I sure did! I would have even proposed to her (I did once), but for the wrong reasons (we were in a fight and I didn't want to loose her). She worked on the weekends about 4 hrs, away. I never questioned anything until one Christmas morning. Her Dr. (with whom we bought her breast implants) knocked on my door and asked if he could see her. I then asked "why". He then replied, "I’m here to pick up my girlfriend". I was furious! So that ended that relationship. I later found out while she was "working" she was actually seeing him instead. I should have picked up on the "signs" but my trust was 100 %. After her, I just "dated" for a while. I was not ready to be hurt again. A few years later I met my ex-fiancée. We were together for a while as well, when I realized we are totally different people. She began drinking every day as I raised her kids. It hit rock bottom for me when her kids asked "is mom drunk again?". I stayed with her for about another 6 months until she found a new place to live. All of this brings me to recently.
You may have judged me from what I have written thinking I am a Man-whore. But what you didn’t realize is the time period of everything I have been writing. Some was in my 20's and some as recent as the days I wrote them. Sure I would think, "this guy is just a fun guy", but let's be honest. How many dates, relationships, one nighters (perhaps) have you had in 10 or more years. Another thing is that you really don’t know my exact age, which if you were doing the math could be anything. Have I questioned myself? Have I often wondered if I should have settled down by now? I sure have! But I have no regrets in the choices I’ve made and actually proud I don't have a divorce and kids yet. Am I often judged for these facts? I sure am! But until you've lived in my shoes you wouldn't know what's behind what you see. Now let me see if I can touch upon the rest of the questions asked, and perhaps the rest you may be wondering.
Where I live it is not uncommon to be thirty-something and unmarried, but for some of you thee is something wrong with me. I have been in committed, long-term relationships. That's not the question...What you are curious about is: am I a player/fun guy? Let me give you some facts and then some explanations. I know exactly what I want out of a partner, I don’t play games, I wont lead you on, and I wont stay with someone because I am scared of being alone. Some of my dates have had children (which I don’t mind) but the Wednesdays and every other weekend makes it tough at the beginning to get to know someone. And that if I am lucky enough to get every other weekend. There are so many dead-beat dads out there, that I rarely even get this. Professional women: job comes first, and constantly busy/canceling plans (again, tough for a relationship). Down to earth/ normal: The two or three I tried dating had drug problems that arose after getting to know them better. I don’t do drugs, and enjoy my sleep. Another wouldn’t let me get a word in edgewise. Its not that everyone is bad, or not relationship material, it's the ones I’ve dated have had big issues. I sometimes write about these, and even have funny stories, but the truth is they were not right for me. We all wish we could meet that perfect someone, but we all have our faults and issues. It just depends what you can brush aside and what you can live with. For me, and I'm sure for you there are things that are just too hard to deal with. Face it, a good number of you were married for years to people like this and it was too much. I was just in the dating period and found all of this out. Did you expect me to stay? Hell, most of you walked away after years with people like this! So am I "dating material"? I must say I am...I even ran a little test yesterday and asked what people thought, and guess what? I AM FUCKING AWESOME, HONEST, TRUSTWORTHY, HUSBAND MATERIAL, QUE RICO, DA BOMB, ASS HOLE, HELL YEA, I'D DO YA, and a few more. So only you can be the judge!
The Man
There are many reasons I never got into this.... I have tried to remain somewhat anonymous; therefore some details have been left out. Let me first talk about my past. In my early 20's I was in a committed relationship that went sour after 4 yrs. Did I love her? I sure did! I would have even proposed to her (I did once), but for the wrong reasons (we were in a fight and I didn't want to loose her). She worked on the weekends about 4 hrs, away. I never questioned anything until one Christmas morning. Her Dr. (with whom we bought her breast implants) knocked on my door and asked if he could see her. I then asked "why". He then replied, "I’m here to pick up my girlfriend". I was furious! So that ended that relationship. I later found out while she was "working" she was actually seeing him instead. I should have picked up on the "signs" but my trust was 100 %. After her, I just "dated" for a while. I was not ready to be hurt again. A few years later I met my ex-fiancée. We were together for a while as well, when I realized we are totally different people. She began drinking every day as I raised her kids. It hit rock bottom for me when her kids asked "is mom drunk again?". I stayed with her for about another 6 months until she found a new place to live. All of this brings me to recently.
You may have judged me from what I have written thinking I am a Man-whore. But what you didn’t realize is the time period of everything I have been writing. Some was in my 20's and some as recent as the days I wrote them. Sure I would think, "this guy is just a fun guy", but let's be honest. How many dates, relationships, one nighters (perhaps) have you had in 10 or more years. Another thing is that you really don’t know my exact age, which if you were doing the math could be anything. Have I questioned myself? Have I often wondered if I should have settled down by now? I sure have! But I have no regrets in the choices I’ve made and actually proud I don't have a divorce and kids yet. Am I often judged for these facts? I sure am! But until you've lived in my shoes you wouldn't know what's behind what you see. Now let me see if I can touch upon the rest of the questions asked, and perhaps the rest you may be wondering.
Where I live it is not uncommon to be thirty-something and unmarried, but for some of you thee is something wrong with me. I have been in committed, long-term relationships. That's not the question...What you are curious about is: am I a player/fun guy? Let me give you some facts and then some explanations. I know exactly what I want out of a partner, I don’t play games, I wont lead you on, and I wont stay with someone because I am scared of being alone. Some of my dates have had children (which I don’t mind) but the Wednesdays and every other weekend makes it tough at the beginning to get to know someone. And that if I am lucky enough to get every other weekend. There are so many dead-beat dads out there, that I rarely even get this. Professional women: job comes first, and constantly busy/canceling plans (again, tough for a relationship). Down to earth/ normal: The two or three I tried dating had drug problems that arose after getting to know them better. I don’t do drugs, and enjoy my sleep. Another wouldn’t let me get a word in edgewise. Its not that everyone is bad, or not relationship material, it's the ones I’ve dated have had big issues. I sometimes write about these, and even have funny stories, but the truth is they were not right for me. We all wish we could meet that perfect someone, but we all have our faults and issues. It just depends what you can brush aside and what you can live with. For me, and I'm sure for you there are things that are just too hard to deal with. Face it, a good number of you were married for years to people like this and it was too much. I was just in the dating period and found all of this out. Did you expect me to stay? Hell, most of you walked away after years with people like this! So am I "dating material"? I must say I am...I even ran a little test yesterday and asked what people thought, and guess what? I AM FUCKING AWESOME, HONEST, TRUSTWORTHY, HUSBAND MATERIAL, QUE RICO, DA BOMB, ASS HOLE, HELL YEA, I'D DO YA, and a few more. So only you can be the judge!
The Man
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
The Love of His Life, Really?!?!
I am really blown away by how many people are reading this now. You guys ROCK!!!!! The Man has his own page now. Clothing line comes out soon. It’s awesome. I know I’m going to spin out if I am walking down the street and see someone wearing a Love Bites shirt. This has been a great experience that I have been allowed to be a part of. I love it…
Recently I found out that JSR has met “The Love of His Life”, according to the shit that he posts on facebook. He even put in a post to her mother that he has always wanted to be their son in law. I then found out that he has tattooed her name on his arm. WTF? What a joke. He really has lost the plot. He hasn’t even been separated long enough to get a divorce and he has a tattoo. Just another thing that this silly man is going to regret in time. Is he trying to compensate for something? Trying to show that even though he walked away from a marriage he can still show that he can commit? Mate… I don’t know if that’s the best way to go about it hey…
So how does it make me feel? For the most part I couldn’t really care. He is not a part of my life anymore. But I will be honest and say that there is this little part of me that thinks he doesn’t have a right to fall in love so quickly. He hurt me, my family, HIS family and our friends with no explanation or apology. I guess I kind of wanted the guy to be single and lonely for long enough for what he has done to sink in and feel the pain and regret. In no way do I want him to come crawling back to me. Hell I don’t ever want to see him again. Maybe this new relationship of his is based on the fact that he doesn’t want to feel that regret. So there is probably little hope for it if its purpose is to keep other feelings from surfacing. Apparently there have already been issues caused by his daughter so I guess it probably is doomed. I wonder how much laser tattoo removal costs??????
Aussie Gal
Recently I found out that JSR has met “The Love of His Life”, according to the shit that he posts on facebook. He even put in a post to her mother that he has always wanted to be their son in law. I then found out that he has tattooed her name on his arm. WTF? What a joke. He really has lost the plot. He hasn’t even been separated long enough to get a divorce and he has a tattoo. Just another thing that this silly man is going to regret in time. Is he trying to compensate for something? Trying to show that even though he walked away from a marriage he can still show that he can commit? Mate… I don’t know if that’s the best way to go about it hey…
So how does it make me feel? For the most part I couldn’t really care. He is not a part of my life anymore. But I will be honest and say that there is this little part of me that thinks he doesn’t have a right to fall in love so quickly. He hurt me, my family, HIS family and our friends with no explanation or apology. I guess I kind of wanted the guy to be single and lonely for long enough for what he has done to sink in and feel the pain and regret. In no way do I want him to come crawling back to me. Hell I don’t ever want to see him again. Maybe this new relationship of his is based on the fact that he doesn’t want to feel that regret. So there is probably little hope for it if its purpose is to keep other feelings from surfacing. Apparently there have already been issues caused by his daughter so I guess it probably is doomed. I wonder how much laser tattoo removal costs??????
Aussie Gal
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