Single Ladies

If you're single I'm sure you've asked yourself "Where have all the good one's gone?" I know I sure have a million times. So what do we do? I really have no idea but it seems like if you're single these days, it's so difficult to find a quality match. We all need to figure out exactly what it is that means the most to us. We all have something that is required to want to start a relationship. What is it that you want? or need? "For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it." I do know a few things that are true, (but most women wont want to hear it) ,but here goes: Some women are interested solely on superficial things (money, status, job, securities, clothing, vehicles and so on) that they tend to overlook good guys. Most men who have these things, know this, and will use you until something better comes along..their message is....”If you want me on my terms...great. Then I do not have to feel guilty when I leave you later. If you wanted more, you should not have started with him and he knows this. If you cry foul later, there is no one to blame but yourself.
But yet there are others who truly don't care what you have, or willing to give them. It sucks, but most guys are more interested in looks than all the other qualities. Guys don't care what you drive, what job you have, and all the other superficial crap that (some) women are attracted to. I know I am guilty for starting relationships based upon looks, then seeing what's inside afterwards.
Then you find women/men who are smart, confident, and genuine, but outside they are not as appealing, and do not take care of their bodies. So they stay confused as to why men/women are not attracted to them. Deep down, most men want a sexually attractive woman and will overlook most other things to find this.
When it comes to choosing a mate (with the intention of entering into a successful relationship) you cannot base your criteria on looks alone. True, you may have gotten extremely lucky in the past and dated one of these super models, but the truth of the matter is that your chances of finding the perfect guy or girl are slim to none.

“The things that are important for making a long-term relationship successful are not the things that attract you to someone in the first place”

Think about it. After the initial excitement of a relationship dies down, what is left? Are your partners good looks (which initially attracted you to him or her in the first place) all that they have going for them? What exactly do you two have in common that would enable you to stay together as a couple for 20-40 years?

My advice to the self proclaimed “picky” men and women out there is as follows:

Lower your standards a bit if your intentions are to enter into a serious successful relationship. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to date someone that is 100lbs overweight who sweats bacon grease. There are plenty of “normal” men and women out there who have minor imperfections when it comes to looks. By actively avoiding getting to know these people, you are effectively cutting your chances (by a very large margin) of meeting “the one”.

Make a list of “must haves” when it comes to looks for your next boyfriend or girlfriend. These are physical features that your partner has that you cannot live without. Then take each physical feature and rate it on a scale of 1-10. Let’s say for example you absolutely have to have a guy who has a completely flat stomach (but not necessarily a 6 pack). Rate that a “7″ on a scale of 1-10 (with “10″ being a 6 pack and “1″ being a beer keg for a belly). Then take that “7″ and lower it down 2 points to a “5″. This will include guys who might have a bit of a belly, but nothing obvious or protruding.
Besides, you must look pretty damn hot if you only date people based upon what they look like? So let's get started expanding our minds, and get closer to finding the "one" for us.
The Man